Personal development is supposed to be personal. It has everything to do with me and not all that much to do with anyone else. It’s been about working on me…becoming the best version of myself that I can and trying to find any glimmer of good in the tragedy that occurred.

So what’s been working for me?

One on one counseling, taking time for me when I need it, acknowledging and listening to my limits, certain audiobooks geared to specific topics that I want to work through and TED talks.

Most importantly, having a select group of friends that I can go to with anything and it is always 100% judgment free. They listen and help me decide what to do, not do what they they think I should do (big difference).

And yes… Dating. It has made me feel human again. More like myself than I’ve been in a long time. Being able to laugh. Being appreciated. Being admired. It feels good.

With any crossroads in life, we have a choice. I have chosen to take the opportunity that was forced upon me and work on myself… and I can honestly say, I love the me that I’m becoming.